Why You Want to Heal — But Don’t Always Show Up

I see it all the time. People show up on the edge of doing the work. They know it’s time. They feel the pull. They can name the patterns that hold them back. But when it comes time to step into the actual process (coaching, ceremony, healing work) the fear rises.

And I get it.

For many, especially those who carry wounds related to men or father figures, stepping into healing spaces with a male coach can feel like walking into the unknown. Even if you’re drawn to the work, there’s often a deep, quiet fear: Will I be safe here?

This is not about you being weak or broken — this is about you being wise. You learned to survive by protecting yourself, by avoiding what felt too big or unsafe to touch. And for many, opening up with a male guide feels like it could reopen old wounds. That’s real.

But here's what I want you to know... you don’t have to do this alone, and you don’t have to do it fast.

I’m not here to push you past your capacity. I hold space with deep care because I know how delicate this process can be. I don’t believe healing happens by rushing through the hard stuff. It happens when you feel safe enough to finally face what you’ve been carrying without judgment, without pressure.

You don’t have to be fearless. You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just have to be willing to show up, with all the fear, hesitation, and hope you carry. That’s enough.

And when you’re ready, whether it’s today or months from now, I’ll be here, ready to hold that space with you.